Okay, so I actually began this post in February when there was an explosion of Pins after Valentine’s Day, and it was nearly impossible to escape any excitement felt for impending nuptials of family and friends both already in the midst of wedding-planning or those newly engaged. With all the new color palettes, possible venues, and endless decisions to make your “Big Day” unique, it remains constant that it is important to experience your wedding to the fullest and have no regrets.
I want to clarify my definition of “no regrets” though. It seems to me that the view of weddings nowadays seems to remind me of Nike in the terms of saying, “Just do it.” Did you find the perfect venue but it’s outside your budget? Just do it. Do you want to wear that dress you’ve been dreaming of since you were four? Just do it. Do you skip the traditional wedding march in order to make room for your own unique dance entrance? Just do it. I’m not saying there is anything wrong with any of the choices above, but there might be a problem with the decision-making behind them. Yes, it is your one day, the day you should get whatever you want, the day your dreams come true, the day everything falls into place perfectly. But what if that’s not the case? What if your venue is downscaled a bit? What if your dress comes from a clearance rack? What if your mother-in-law requests tradition to be upheld? Will you really be so unhappy that you will live forever in regret? The drive to make your wedding day the most absolutely perfect day ever seems to be the ideal in the wedding world, but… why?
It seems repetitive to talk about the point of your wedding day to be about the person you’re marrying and the lifelong commitment you are giving one another. If you’re a bride-to-be and reading through wedding sites, you’ve read that statement before and you’ll read it again. It seems almost instinctual for a bride to want her day to flow smoothly, but perhaps the fear of imperfection outweighs common sense in regards to wedding day regret.
I am far from stepping up to the altar, but I do have some perspective from planning events: though the venue should be inviting and sheltering, the dress beautiful, and the ceremony meaningful, no one certain detail of your wedding truly matters. Put down your pitchforks, ladies, and listen. How many weddings have you gone to in the past where your experience of the details effected your attitude for the couple being united? For the people that honestly love you, nothing but your commitment and love will be celebrated at your wedding. Nobody cares that your dress was $100 online. Nobody cares the flower arrangements aren’t roses. Tomorrow those same attendees will be back to wondering whether they should make tacos or hamburgers for dinner, worrying over Tiger’s games, or preparing to escape on family vacations. Honestly, everyone is thinking about pretty much anything else rather than the small details of your wedding.
Other than your obvious sharing of love, your attendees will mostly remember the fun and entertainment your wedding held. Whenever I get married, I plan to have no regrets during my wedding. Though my wedding will have a significant amount of “us” to it, I want my guests to enjoy the night. I want to share my love with laughs and dancing and memories. I could care less about the details of my wedding, as long as my husband-to-be, myself, and my guests find the day fun and special and unique. I don’t need perfection.