Now that the wedding is over, there are a few items on G’s and my to-do list to complete such as legally changing names and addresses, reviewing vendors, and finding a place for all our wedding decor. Yet the most pressing of these necessary post-wedding items is writing our thank you cards.
Our friends and family traveled from near and far to celebrate with us on our Big Day and we received many nice gifts as well. The task of writing close to 100 thank yous seems a bit daunting, but it’s an oh-so-important task and we plan to block out time on our calendars to take care of these notes every night over the next week.
Are you at this point as well and are avoiding the task because you don’t know what to say? I gotcha, girl. Knowing how to word thank you notes is something many brides struggle with after the wedding. It is easy for wedding thank you cards to feel like an overwhelming and anxious task! But as long as you can muster up a few heartfelt words, you are free to use the same thankful wording over and over… and I’ll even help get you started!
First off, always address all guests who attended and/or were mentioned in the wedding card. After your Dear So-And-So, keep the message short and sweet. Wedding thank you notes do not to be long — they are notes after all — but they do need to sound genuine. Provide details such as the gift item received or a personal inside joke or how you’ll be using cash gifts. So, in short, keep you notes short, detailed, and light-hearted.
Thank You Wording for Physical Gifts
Thank you so much for coming to our wedding! The day would not have been the same without you in attendance. We were also so happy to receive [the gift/s] and look forward to [using it for years to come/having it as a beautiful reminder of our wedding/etc].
Thank You wording for cash gifts
Thank you for attending our wedding! It was the best day imaginable, and your presence was a big factor in that! We are so appreciative of your generous gift, and plan to [add it to our down payment on a house/use it to make our honeymoon wonderful/etc]. Thank you again for celebrating with us.
Thank you wording for attendance only
Thank you so much for being at our wedding! It was wonderful to see you and be able to spend time celebrating what was such an amazing day. Your attendance warmed our hearts and made our wedding day THAT much better. Sending you the warmest well wishes until we see you again.
Thank you wording for a loved one unable to attend but sent a gift
We are so sorry you were not able to make it to the celebration on our wedding day. It was a wonderful day, but you were missed. We wanted to make sure to say thank you for [the gift] and plan to [use of gift, physical or cash] in the future. Thank you for thinking of us, and hoping to see you soon.
A few other things to keep in mind while you’re writing those notes:
- Be timely with your thank you cards. Enjoy your honeymoon and a few weeks of “getting into the swing of married life,” but then knock this task out. Most guests expect a thank you within 2 to 3 months of the wedding.
- Write notes to everyone, even if they didn’t give you a gift. That friend or family member made the journey and spent their precious time (and most likely a bit of travel expenses) to celebrate your union, remember? Thank everyone who showed up to be a part of your wedding.
- Both partners should be a part of the thank you writing process. You both got married, right? You both had guests attend, correct? Then, ladies, this is not just your post-wedding “party.” Start your marriage off on a good page by tag-teaming this task into completion.